Safety Guidelines for Listener Meetups
Many people have met through the Listener Map and formed lasting friendships and community groups—most without incident. But, as with any online platform, there’s the potential for misuse.
We don’t moderate individual interactions, and we can’t verify the identity of every user. So if you’re planning to meet someone in person, it’s important to take sensible precautions. Your safety really matters.
1. Get to Know Them First
Take time to get to know the person online before agreeing to meet in real life. A bit of background checking can help you feel more confident.
· Check their social media or Google their name. A lack of genuine photos or interaction with friends may be a red flag.
· Avoid sharing personal details early on, like your home address, workplace, or daily routines.
· If anything feels off, you’re under no obligation to pursue the connection further.
2. Plan Your Meetup Carefully
If you decide to meet up, plan wisely:
· Bring a friend, especially for your first meetup. Or arrange a group meetup if others are nearby.
· Choose a public, familiar space. Avoid meeting at someone’s home or inviting them to yours.
· Don’t accept or offer lifts, especially on a first meeting.
· Let a friend or family member know your plans—who you’re meeting, where and when.
· Share your live location with someone you trust (many phones have this option).
· Keep your phone fully charged and accessible.
3. Have an Exit Plan
It’s okay to leave if something doesn’t feel right. Trust your instincts.
· Arrange for someone to check in with you during or shortly after the meetup.
· Think ahead about how you’ll leave if you feel uncomfortable—bring cash, know local transport times, or have a pre-booked ride option.
· Be polite, but firm. You never have to stay in a situation that doesn’t feel safe.
4. You’re Never Obliged to Meet
· If you’re unsure, don’t meet up.
· You can always cancel a planned meetup. You don’t need to explain why.
· Your wellbeing comes first.
One Last Thing…
We can’t guarantee everyone is who they say they are. That’s the nature of open platforms. But we deeply value your safety, and we encourage you to take these precautions seriously. They’re not about fear—they’re about wise, grounded care for yourself and others.
